Travels to my Aunt
Last weekend I went to visit my Aunt, down in Surrey. I’d realised a little while ago that I hadn’t
been to see her since Helen died; it was something we used to do from time to
time, but we always drove down together
and I haven’t been driving so much over the past two years, because it’s much
less enjoyable on your own. When I came to look at the map it dawned on me that it
was perfectly possible to do it by train, as it wasn’t a particularly long walk
from that station to my Aunt’s bungalow; I’d just never thought of doing it.
The only time we had taken the train was when we went to my Aunt’s ninetieth
birthday party, which had happened in a village hall virtually next door to the
station. I have a vivid memory of waiting with Helen on the platform to go home watching an
excellent stag beetle under the pine trees in the summer heat.
Remembering how long ago my Aunt’s ninetieth birthday party
happened was the sort of thing that Helen was very good at, and I am much less
good. So, it was in the summer, clearly not the summer of 2015, nor the summer
before that, because I would remember, so it was some time longer ago than
that. Fortunately Aunt June wrote a book, of which I have a copy, so I could
check, and there found that she is now in fact ninety-eight and a half.
I had proposed giving myself a bit of a lie-in that
Saturday, and thought of getting to her at half past twelve, but she was
shocked at that suggestion, which was much too late, so I said I would get to
her for eleven-thirty. She then called me again to check whether I was driving
or coming by train, so I confirmed that I would come on the train that arrived
at eleven-eighteen, whereupon she said that she would meet me at the station. I
protested that I could perfectly well walk, walk would do me good etc, but was
firmly overruled. It would be much too muddy, and they had had a lot of rain,
which left lots of standing water on the roads, so walking was really not a
good idea. You will understand that Aunt June is not to be deflected.
So, I duly got the train, and wrote half a sermon on the way
(in increasing discomfort as I had forgotten that South-West Trains commuter
stock doesn’t feature lavatories). Aunt June was there on the platform to meet
me, and showed me to her car, parked just outside. She then drove us home. She
made us tea and insisted I sit with the newspaper while she finished making
lunch. I was able to help a bit with bringing things through and clearing up,
but my attempt to leave after lunch was smartly brushed aside, as she intended
us to have tea and cake (she apologised that the cake was bought). She drove me
to the station just before four, so that she didn’t have to drive in the dark,
which she no longer does. I sympathised, and said that I don’t enjoy driving in
the dark either. I at least have the excuse of wearing glasses, I suppose.
This may seem a very mundane tale, but I repeat that Aunt
June is ninety-eight and a half. I suspect that part of the explanation for her
longevity and spirit is that she still works; the BBC sends a car for her
whenever she is required and she goes and records in Birmingham, as she has done for decades. She
certainly keeps her mind sharp, and founded a Scrabble club in the village
fifteen years or so ago after my Uncle died, with whom she had played the game
for years. Do not imagine that this is all sustained by her children either,
because my cousin David died more than ten years ago, and his sister Roz lives
up in Suffolk, so Aunt June doesn’t have family running around doing everything
for her. Rather, she is from a stoic generation, who just get on with
things. She and Uncle Roger helped support me through university, so I have a lot to be grateful to her for, and I fear I am not a very good nephew.
Brotherly Love
My brother and I have still not seen each other for
Christmas. They were meant to come to me this year, though we hadn’t fixed a
firm arrangement because of the fluidity necessary for them to respond to
children and grandchildren. In the days when they were meant to come, though,
they were both stricken with some sort of lurgy, and that has dragged on, first
one, then the other being ill. I get occasional email bulletins. I could perfectly well go out to Essex to see them, but I don't want to burden my sister-in-law, who would insist on providing food, but perhaps that would actually be easier for them than coming up to town. With the passage of time this is beginning to feel a bit stupid, but is typical Everett behaviour. When my
brother was working in town he would come for coffee or lunch some time in
December and we would exchange presents, but now he is finally retired that
hasn’t happened, so I still have presents waiting to be handed over to them. It
looks as if these may turn into Easter gifts.
A Surprise
At the Parish Eucharist at St Peter’s yesterday morning we
had an odd thing in the intercessions: we prayed for the success of Brexit. Now
some people in the congregation may not have heard clearly, as the battery in
the microphone was failing, but I was close enough to hear very clearly the
prayer that “the aspirations of the British people be satisfied”. A good corrective
to the Remoaning bias of the Vicar, you may say. Indeed. And of course we all
want Brexit to be successful and not a shambles, though I wouldn’t have put it quite
that way myself. The surprise was that the prayer came from a sixteen-year old
girl of Nigerian descent. Perhaps my surprise just shows how narrow-minded I
am.
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